This is the final day of this series of Securing the Strength to Serve. I definitely haven’t discussed everything to do with this topic, but I hope I have given you some things to think through, so that you can benefit from my personal experience. Today we are going into the emotional aspect of this issue. I have found that it is highly intertwined with the spiritual side of this issue.
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect. Romans 12:2
This verse became a lifeline for me when I struggled with postpartum depression after the birth of my first son. What it told me was that our mind was in the PROCESS of being renewed, day after day. Part of that renewal involved not conforming to the world, but being set apart as a child of the King. So in order to continue that renewal in the right direction, we must be careful what we put into our minds and hearts.
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. Philippians 4:8
The enemy will use any means available to cause discouragement, weariness, anger, and any number of emotions that will be detrimental to your mental health and to the relationships you are trying to foster as you care for your loved ones. (As a side note, keep in mind that this is also true for the loved one you are caring for.) When you have a spare few minutes to relax, be careful about the books/magazines you choose to read, the television show/movies you watch, and the friends you choose to hang out with. If it doesn’t line up with Philippians 4:8, stay away from it.
Along these same lines…
We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ… II Corinthians 10:5
Dear reader, you WILL get discouraged and have negative thoughts through this time. It’s a difficult journey! You will be on the battlefield of taking those thoughts captive to the obedience of Christ.
“I can’t DO this anymore!”>>>>>>”This is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life, but with God’s help, I will be able to see it through to the end.”
“Mama hates me! She said as much! WHY am I doing this!”>>>>”Mama is dying. She thinks I am trying to hurt her and that feeling is very real to her. She cannot help that. I know that I’m taking care of her and that she would be so thankful that I am taking care of her to the best of my ability. I will not let the enemy take hold of my emotions and crush my spirit.”
The two above are just examples of the battle that you will engage in during your time as caregiver.
Friend, I hope this series has been helpful to you in some way. If you have a question about any of this information, please send me a message. Just leave a comment that you’d like me to email you and I’d be glad to engage with you via private email. I would be honored to encourage someone else on the road that I have already traveled.